Having brains doesn’t get you anywhere: being gay, a minority, poor, having divorced parents, or a trust fund does.


This is going to be a touchy blog post.  I won’t have written it properly if it doesn’t push some buttons.

If you are going to be offended by anything in the title, I suggest you stop reading.  Go ahead, accuse me of discrimination based on sexual orientation, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, or home life.  I’m not discriminating  I’m letting you know that your rights are protected at the cost of mine.

I’m a victim of discrimination based on none of the above.

Here in America, we protect every living breathing stereotype (not breathing? we protect your right to be a vegetable too).  You constantly see the media referencing people being bullied because they are different [ don’t agree or promote bullying, I think it’s good that we take drastic measures to stop it].  When applying for a job, there is an Equal Opportunity Clause to protect you.  When applying to a college, unless it is gender specific, the same rules apply.

But what about the people that were “blessed” with a situation that doesn’t put them in a protected category?

I am straight.  I am white.  I am middle class.  I have married parents. I am a dying breed.

And the same way some minorities claim that when you look at them, all you are seeing is their race: I am here to say that I am sick and tired of you looking at me and only seeing the above facts about me.  

I have a 3.92 GPA.  I work 25 hours a week.  I take 23 credits total at 2 separate colleges.  I work my ass off.

I’m not claiming that there are gay people, minorities, poor people, divorced people, or people with money that aren’t working just as hard.  I am claiming that people with those “conditions” and work ethic are being given an advantage for the wrong reasons.

There is a list of minorities, gay people, and poor people that get employed and into jobs first.  There are spots open to them, that the white straight middle class married parent people like myself can’t touch.

I was accepted to LIM college today in Manhattan, and along with my YOU’RE IN folder was a big ole fuck you for being white, straight, middle class, and having married parents.  I got into the school, like LIM said, but that $3,000 scholarship on a $56,000 school certainly is not going to cut it.

And if I were black, gay, poor, and had divorced parents this wouldn’t be an issue.

I don’t think it’s fair, that I am practically over qualified to attend this school, yet won’t get the chance.  The acceptance rate at LIM is 73% according to College Board.  Also according to College Board, I am in the top 11% of applicants.

According to those statistics I should not have an issue going LIM.  But what people don’t realize is I am not just a statistic. I am a person.  I worked hard and I am infuriated.

I went through high school under the impression that hard work gets you places, so working hard is what I did.  I remember people joking saying “Well, nerds will be your boss some day” and that was motivation.  But those chances of being somebody’s boss significantly decrease when you find out that you can’t go to college.

In America, we claim that we are trying to give everyone regardless of race, sexual orientation, marital, or socioeconomic status a chance to succeed.  As time has progressed, success has entailed college, but college isn’t for the white straight middle class married people anymore.

We’ve become the enemy.  We can’t claim that we didn’t get in though.  That’s their trick.  I got in.

I just can’t afford to go.

6 thoughts on “Having brains doesn’t get you anywhere: being gay, a minority, poor, having divorced parents, or a trust fund does.

  1. I think you did the opposite of clearing preppy’s name with this post. I know it’s disappointing, and I wish you had been offered more money, but sometimes you might want to think before you post things. The internet is a dangerous place to put things like this, and I think you know that.

    • I understand entirely what you’re saying, this post is controversial and honestly I debated leaving it on Microsoft word.. But then I decided to take a risk. It could come back and get me, I know now that a day has passed this is not the best way to represent my preps, but I needed to be honest and I don’t regret it. I hope you’ll continue to read my blog and see that I write more than hate letters ❤

  2. Firstly, congratulations, you’ve obviously written it well because this post has made me a little mad. Secondly, congratulations {again} on getting into college {regardless whether or not you’re going to attend}, it’s a great feeling getting that letter! :]

    Now all I really have to say is this: appreciate the fact that you’re a “dying breed”. I wish I was the same. My mum has been divorced twice – the first being when I was just five years old. I grew up without a permanent father figure and that has damaged me more than you could possibly imagine. My father is remarried to someone who doesn’t particularly like my sister or I. My sister even refused to go to their wedding because of the animosity between the two of them. Try imagining how that feels. My sister was eight years old when she made that decision and it hasn’t gotten any easier being around our step-mother, nine years down the road. I would give ANYTHING to have your home life. I’m almost close to having it again but I’m not going to hold my breath.

    College is college; it will always be there but there’s no guarantee that your family will be.If you reaaaaaaaaaaaaally wanted to go to college then you would find a way. Hopefully you do :]

    • Thank you for commenting. I would not wish your situation on anybody and I know it is unfair for me to complain. I can’t imagine how you feel because I haven’t been in that position. I know my post made you angry, looking at it from your perspective I would be mad too. I am blessed, and most of the time gracious: it just happens from time to time that I forget that. Lucky for me, stories like these remind me of where I come from and what I do have to be thankful for. I’m praying for you and your family. ❤

      • It just hit a nerve, is all. My friend{s} always complain about their families too but I’m quick to shut them down. If there’s one thing I can’t stand, it’s when people complain that their family is “too … {something}.”
        Thank you :]

  3. I understand where you’re coming from.

    Although LIM is extremely expensive, you can still try to find ways to go! When you have free time, apply for scholarships. You can always talk to the school about payment plans for tuition. And as a last resort… there are always loans. I’m already $1,700 in the hole with college loans (after one year), but I don’t have to start paying until 6 months after I graduate, and when I do start paying, it’ll be $50 a month. Not bad at all, in my opinion. I got my loans through NelNet and they really seem like they’ll work with you to help you pay off your loans. Plus, if you have extra money one month, you can start paying even before you graduate!

    Just some things to consider (:

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